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Entry Note To Self...the art of living
Journal Entry: 12/12/18 The Art Of Living How we choose what we do, and how we approach it…will determine whether the sum of our days ...
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The River Keeps Moving And like an ancient lava, the sun sprayed those muted golds and oranges across the slick surface of that slow-y...
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As I walked the beach this morning, in the distance I observed a memorial service to a fallen soldier. I have seen weddings, family reunio...
Ah one for the books Doc! A challenge indeed. LOL
ReplyDelete"This reminds me of when I'm too much, then at times I'm not enough"
I would guess this is a time when maybe, I will be for some "too much" I'm grinning. The world is a precarious place, where many believe most of the time they are right without facts to back it up. Others don't care if they are right or wrong, they need someone to listen without commenting or trying to fix anything...some women are this way. Ever read the story of the farmer who rode the donkey into town on a warm summer day? Some said it was wrong of him to ride that poor donkey on such a warm day, with all the supplies it carried, the farmer should walk, so he did, Then along the way, others said it was wrong to care, and feed a donkey which did not labour for it's keep. So the farmer didn't argue he listened, and knew both sides were sympathetic, so he made the mistake of trying to please them. So he carried the supplies, he even carried the donkey... then the whole town laughed. However the farmer broke his back trying to please everyone. The moral of this story in my mind is, not everyone feels the same way depending on their own experiences, and if they do tomorrow they may change the way they feel again from prevailing circumstances. Listen with your heart, but leave this organ in your chest, you can't please everyone, if you do try, some will say you're a "goody-two-shoe" while others will think by you fixing their problems you're a "know it all" or opinionated, and even selfish. You can't win for losing. Comments and experiences are welcomed by CatDG
No comment. Just wholeheartedly enjoy your experiences as always, precious Cat! But I do have a question – although we know too well we can’t please everyone, we still can’t help but always try to, don’t we. What to do about it?
DeleteMy dear Dorothy, please yourself first by keeping in mind, others can please themselves. I noticed in my life, they're never happy anyway. What I did about it, since you asked me, is giving up control. I decided one day it wasn't my responsibility to make others happy, it never was and never will be. I hope this answers your question. It's a big issue I know. When you stop trying, a transformation will occur. Speaking personally of course, I noticed residue of anger went away. I think I was blaming others for the deeds I was volunteering for. Crazy stuff mmm?
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DeleteA way out? Is only by choice, of what you choose to do, or not to by your own will, and preferences, and isn't unkind or selfish. When it comes to kindness, or pleasing others it's all about personalities. Being nice to others is not a job, it's a person's persona. Some people are not friendly, but it doesn't mean they're unkind, it means they are anti-social personalities. To understand others and their complexities, is kindness. To be right or wrong becomes irrelevant. A quality of life? There are many, how does one define this quality? A job well done, by who's standards? You can see how it becomes illusions of whatever you want it to be. This is the reason I said in the beginning, "please yourself first" if it pleases you to polish the silver for your guests, do not assume it will please them. Do it because you want to..then the rest takes care of itself. CatDG
DeleteThank you dear Cat, you are just great, as always ^.^
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ReplyDeleteSome people will try to please others, as a substitute for pleasing themselves in order to share this positive and healthy experience - thereby perhaps expressing their need rather than their generosity?
ReplyDeleteI have perceived within myself, that the responsibility of receiving and cultivating that which is given can develop and grow in a way that becomes an unhealthy expression of love, as a problem and limitation for future exchanges and trusting to accept this energy within ourselves - we must first have some of this, the same energy, to actually be able to give back.
It is often said that we must love ourselves before we can love others. I suspect that the same principle applies - we must thus perhaps learn to love ourselves before we become ready to receive this precious gift of another person's love (and also trust) - without this becoming a burden and loss for them both.
Let us hope not for love then, but for the confidence and trust in giving it away (and receiving it) responsibly? I think that such a stance can bring a kind of happiness, even in what would otherwise be perceived as a loss - it now becomes a gain in responsible cultivation and safeguarding, a rich and wonderful gift to give away in the future.
Thanks ^.^
DeleteThank you unknown anonymous for your reply and wisdom. Responsible cultivation, indeed the way.
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